You probably have friends who come to mind when you think of being fortunate or lucky. They happen upon tickets to the hottest events, get invited on really great trips, skip lines, succeed in their careers, and stumble upon one awesome experience after another. While these events seem to occur randomly and with very little effort, research shows that fortunate people have similar habits and beliefs. I believe that good things happen to good people, generally speaking, and that luck is actually something that can be learned and increased. How are your lucky friends attracting all their good fortune? They go out of their way to meet people. As Max Gunther writes in his book How to Get Lucky, “Luck flows along linked chains of people until it hits targets.” A lot of what we consider luck is really just opportunities landing at our feet. Those opportunities flow through people. The more people you know, the more opportunities are presented. They say “yes”. Lucky people say “yes” to offers that come their way, even if it’s not something they originally planned. This flexibility allows them to experience more, meet more people, and parlay those experiences into more opportunities. While it’s important to have a plan, it’s just as important to let yourself deviate from your plan to explore ideas or opportunities that interest you. They trust their gut. An expert who works with professional poker players says the lucky players listen to their gut feelings. “Intuition, like any other skill, can be improved with practice,” he says. Becoming more in touch with your inner voice, and developing the ability to read people and understand unspoken social cues can improve your intuition. So trust your intuition and act on it! They stay positive. Lucky people aren’t fortunate all the time. Everyone faces adversity and experiences failure, but you won’t find your lucky friends dwelling over bad breaks. People who seem lucky turn hardships into something positive. They learn from their mistakes and use it to make their next experience better. And they speak and think positively. Someone who routinely says “why do I always have bad luck” typically will cause bad luck to occur! They give. Lucky people are givers. Lucky people don’t just meet more people, they connect better, and maintain relationships. They know a lot of people, but more importantly, a lot of people know them. When you meet new people, focusing on what you can give to them, rather than what you can get from them is the best way to build genuine relationships and make a lasting impression. Give your time, give your full attention, lend your expertise, and look for ways to add value to your new relationship. At first, you may have to make a conscious effort to make giving your focus, but eventually it becomes second nature — as it is for many lucky people. They think outside the box. Lucky people are creative thinkers. In 1975, Gary Dahl invented the pet rock. The fad lasted six months, but it was enough to make Dahl a millionaire. It’s one of those ideas that makes you think, “Why didn’t I come up with that?” His success could be attributed to luck, but really he saw an opportunity to solve a problem. Dahl came up with his brilliant idea when he was at a bar with friends and they were complaining about how they had to walk, feed, groom and clean up after their pets. His out-of-the-box thinking for how to solve pet problems changed his life. Your lucky friends, who experience success in business, probably have the same ability to look at a problem from a different vantage point and come up with a creative solution. This post is not to say that everyone is dealt the same hand in life and all luck is created. Many people have innate privilege or fortunate circumstances that contribute to their luck or success. But what you make of the hand you were dealt is up to you. What do your lucky friends do? They leverage it into opportunities. |